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How do you correct your children without criticizing them? Monica Hinderer joins Doug discussing how constant criticism harms your children and how focusing on your child&rsquo;s unique strengths is part of the solution to raising confident children. &nbsp; Listener questions and comments: <ul> <li>Len - You guys do a great job. What made Monica want to go into her dad&rsquo;s profession? (18:16)</li> <li>Bob - On low self-esteem: I think low self-esteem is a virtue. It seems like the best people have had low self-esteem. (20:48)</li> <li>Peter - I'm a parent of four. When my three little girls were young, a lady told me 'don't be too hard on them because if so, they'll jump into another man&rsquo;s arms too early&rsquo;. (25:54)</li> <li>Marie - I have a son who is 49 years old. He's very adamantly opposed to me and is angry with me. I'm not sure why. (36:44)</li> <li>Sharon - My father was very critical and he was an alcoholic, even though he was very well-achieved. (43:06)</li> <li>Deedee - What if that child grew up to be an overachiever, after growing up in an overly critical home? (48:25)</li> </ul> &nbsp; Resources: Catholic Therapists <a href="https://catholictherapists.com/">https://catholictherapists.com/</a> &nbsp; Catholic Psychotherapy <a href="https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/">https://catholicpsychotherapy.org/</a> &nbsp; Marriage Unhindered <a href="https://www.marriageunhindered.com/">https://www.marriageunhindered.com/</a> &nbsp; Rekindled Hearts Marriage Bundle <a href="https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle">https://relevantradio.store/collections/books/products/marriage-bundle</a> &nbsp; Happy Marriage for Life <a href="https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/">https://www.happymarriageforlife.com/</a> &nbsp; Negative outcomes of criticism &nbsp; <ol> <li>Low self esteem</li> <li>Perfectionism</li> <li>Negative self-talk</li> <li>Difficulty accepting compliments</li> <li>Tendency towards being hypercritical</li> <li>Becoming hyper defensive</li> <li>Becoming people pleasers</li> <li>Becoming too self-reliant</li> <li>Social anxiety</li> <li>Comparing&nbsp;</li> <li>Constant apology</li> </ol>

Your child’s unique strengths

Doug is joined by Monica Hinderer to talk about the damage criticism does to children: They discuss the many factors that can lead to criticism and share how parents can help children develop positive self-esteem. Doug and Monica tackle listener questions and comments on the following: ·         My adult daughter says we nitpick too much. I am just trying to correct or help her but she won't listen. ·         My mom was super critical and both my sister and I have made it a point to treat our daughters differently. ·         My son has really low self-esteem and I don't know how to help him. ·         My mother nags a lot but I don't see it as nagging and I love that she tells me these things. I think it's only through prayer that I am able to take it so well. ·         My son is an adult but I think I was critical his whole life and now everything seems like a criticism to him.